I work with men stuck in cycles they can't break. Cycles that pull them out of alignment with who they know they are. These patterns show up as compulsive porn use, sex addiction, workaholism, emotional volatility, or anything else that helps them avoid what's underneath.
WHO I WORK WITH
Men who feel stuck in addictive cycles
Men who look successful but feel lost
Men disconnected from themselves
Men who feel emotionally unstable
If you're here, it's because you know something is off, and you're tired of trying to figure it out alone. I work with men who are ready to stop running and start doing the work.
MY APPROACH
Core to my work is a simple idea: addiction is a symptom, not the cause.
White-knuckling the behavior doesn't work. You've probably already proven that to yourself.
Lasting change comes from healing what's driving it.
Safety
Creating a grounded foundation so that you can actually face yourself.
Understanding
Exploring your story & uncovering the root of your patterns.
Reality
Separating who you are from who you were.
Reliability
Rebuilding self trust through discipline and aligned actions.
Expression
Learning to communicate your truth without shame, rage or collapse.
Alignment
Becoming the man whose actions reflect his values.
Leadership
Leading your family and your life without controlling, and without collapsing.
Why "surreal"? Because sometimes it feels like a dream. How did I get here? How does my life look like this? But it's not a dream. And you have the power to shape your reality.
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​Month one, we build the foundation. Month two, we go to the root. Month three, we rebuild. By the end, you walk away with more than sobriety from a behavior. You walk away steadier, less reactive, and calmer under pressure, with decisions coming from you instead of from fear, impulse, or old survival habits.
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​​This is how men break addiction. This is how men lead.
Why Work With Me
A man who has walked this path and can show you the way through.
Hi, I'm Moshe Abudarham, founder of Aligned Masculinity. I know what it's like to carry something no one can see. For years I was an addict: porn, sex, drugs. Emotionally unstable, lost in my marriage, disconnected from my kids, my wife, and myself. I couldn't trust my own decisions. And I hid all of it, holding my life together on the outside while eroding on the inside.
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I grew up in a highly structured religious environment, carrying early wounds I didn't yet have language for. In my twenties, I became a single father in Jerusalem, doing my best and still feeling like I was failing, while making sure nobody around me knew the truth.​​
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Everything changed when I finally understood what was actually driving my patterns: the survival responses and unresolved pain underneath them. That understanding let me rebuild my life from the ground up. My integrity, my faith, my family. Today I'm happily married, grounded, the CEO of a tech company, and a coach to men fighting the battle I fought..
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I am not perfect-- I am honest. I know what it feels like to fall, and I know what it takes to climb back up and stay up.
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You don't have to climb alone.
Testimonials
A.C., 32
Moshe role as a life coach has been truly impactful. Moshe has a calm, grounded presence that instantly puts you at ease, while also creating a space where real reflection and growth can happen. Moshe’s ability to listen deeply, ask the right questions, and gently challenge me helped me gain clarity, shift my mindset, and reconnect with what truly matters to me. I felt fully supported throughout the process, yet encouraged to step outside my comfort zone. I’m genuinely grateful for the perspective, confidence, and self-awareness I’ve gained, and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Moshe to anyone looking to create meaningful and lasting change in their life.
A.K., 35
Each one of us has their own journey. Moshe's coaching advice is so relatable it feels like he’s gone through the same exact experiences as you. It’s more than identifying issues; he gives practical exercises to support growth in the real world. He has passion and full engagement in every conversation.
M.T., 35
Moshe has helped me improve my relationship in a big way, and has helped me get clarity in the most optimal way to live my life.